LelandJ
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I got the offer. Smaller insurance firm. They marginally beat my current pay although pension contributions are way better. Maybe 5 or 6 staff compared to the 25-30 I have now. Still in the financial district. I'm tortured whether I should keep interviewing and hold out for better before my title is taken away in my current firm.
Never wait until your title and kudos are ripped from your grasp....
Sounds like a winner: less people = less problems. More money and better pension. What's not to like?
A smaller organisation may mean more control, more authority and you'll be more appreciated and get things done a lot quicker. Of course, not everyone suits smaller business units and for some the large city size corporate entity is ideal.
fwiffo - as I've told you before - my motto is "Better To Be King of The Shits than The Shit of Kings"
You sound like 1/3 of the people I speak to - more money, same title, less work - win win win. That's not really the same to me.
I like big organizations because it comes with big problems and a lot of bureaucracy to wade through.
You keep saying that.
They asked me to ring them back after my initial declination, and were prepared to offer more money and I said no. I actually feel like a wanker for turning them down again. They said in their decade of being stationed in this country as a branch of the head office, no one has ever declined them.
So now I am confused. You wanted title, money but it must be wrapped in big bureaucracy. Aren't you in the position you are in because of your firm's bureaucracy?
I'm with fxh in thinking the offer from the small firm is a good move.
But only you know what you really want.
I am getting demoted at my big firm. If I wasn't demoted, I'd probably stay for a bit to see how this reorganization pans out.
Understood, but you had a solution in hand - save for the bureaucracy bit - and from that perspective it gave you what you wanted.
I could have went to a small firm but it wouldn't help me be considered later on for larger firms. I know I can fix this operation in 2 years, but then where do I go? They were looking for a successor to their VP and frankly leaving when you're being groomed as a successor would be accepting the job in bad faith.
If my title was taken away last week and I was given something I was doing more than a decade ago, I'd jump. I have some luxury right now to check off all my boxes. I'm not desperate just yet. Four months from now - probably.
who was looking for the VP succession? your firm or the other one. If it is your firm, are you in the queue for that and how does that resonate with your demotion.
If it is the little firm, organizations always deal with upward moves
The little firm. The only good thing about the small firm is they are growing so likely to add people in the next few years. I've been with firms when they need to cut costs and shrink and that's not fun. They're clearly not like that.
In my current firm, there are only 37 people management positions including the CxO in my division. There are 1,000 people in the division. Nearly half the people management positions are reserved for new blood outside of the company so I'm out of luck when it comes to continuing my people management career here.
...and you turned down the little guys....title.....$$$......VP succession path........
VP in a 50 person firm? Or wait, 100 people if it grows beyond its wildest imagination when I get there?
What is your point? You mentioned VP succession. Now it isn't on or you can't fathom being a VP of an organization of 50?
That's an overinflated title. Just like any director who isn't managing people managers. I could be president of a company if make my own business too, but does it have any cachet?
It provides you with a springboard with other firms when the time comes. VP > director regardless of size. Different cone of silence privileges. You take an opportunity and run with it. Or not.
That's what my father said, but I have big five banks looking at me because of the team size I manage now. If I manage a 5 person team, I won't. Plus in a small firm I can't carry over my old staff. Maybe 1 staff at the most. And I have coterie of friends and family working for me now.
Where the hell were you last Thursday when I was struggling with this all night and into the next day? It's too late to renege now.
Its never too late to tell them you reconsidered and are wondering if the job is open. Door is probably shut but you never know. Unless they hired someone after you spurned them.
Were you stressing last Thursday over it? Were you doing it on DW chat? I never go in there anymore.
And I have coterie of friends and family working for me now.
^ this will drag you down in any senior leadership role.
Yes - I was. Doghouse kept telling me to shoot for the stars so I heeded some of his advice. If in 4 months the demotion really takes into effect, I can get an offer from an insurance firm managing less than 10 individual contributors any day. One byproduct of looking for work for the past 4 months is I am a lot sharper at interviewing and customizing my CV for each role. I'm not exactly damaged goods here.
The only ones besides you to suggest I take the job was Michelle the bartender and this other woman. Both said it is a fresh start, I'm obviously tired of the current scenery and it'll likely be less hectic at least in the beginning.
I am in a position to invent openings and fill them. I hire well. Sometimes I have the odd position I can fill solely on personal ties. I don't see it as unethical. Perhaps I am Middle Eastern in my sensibilities.
Not unethical. Difficult. When you move higher it puts more stress on the relationship(s). You have to learn no one is your friend.
The advice I was given by other senior leaders before applying and when I was considering the CEO offer was the job is challenging and it is the loneliest job in the world. I got the gist what they were saying but it was a bit lost on me because I don't need any work pals.
I have one mate at work whom I will keep in touch with on a personal basis. I invented a job for my lady friend's sister because she was straight out of school. I do a lot of charitable work that way. No interviews since I don't interview people I already know.
I don't want to be C suite for that reason. That's why I don't even want to be VP. I sat in a corner office when I was in Atlanta when the CxO was fired and I stepped in his shoes temporarily. The sheer amount of trivial crap that corner office attracted was astounding.
Yeah I remember you gave up a leadership role to be regular person. I'm not exactly of age to give up a challenge to take it easy. I should be challenging myself at this age.
And I have coterie of friends and family working for me now.
^ this will drag you down in any senior leadership role.
But if what you find challenging is at your current level, that is fine. Only you know what you want. All I am saying is that if you moved to the VP it would be challenging and for some old and some new reasons.
If you had taken th VP gig would you have been a young VP, normal aged VP? Certainly not an old VP.
It's a complete no-no in the modern organisation. It will stave off your career chances and behind your back everyone will be saying you're bent and draw undue scrutiny. Of course there are exceptions.....
Fwiffs - I don't understand you but I particularly don't understand your workplace. Its a huge (inter) nation state that allows (encourages?) drinking on the job and allows nepotism (corruption?)to flourish.
I'm bent? I was told I have no moral compass by a peer. As I always say to vendors I'm very susceptible to bribes.
Against some organisations code of ethics, then employing someone not on the basis of talent, or credentials and previous track record, but on the fact that they are your friend or relation would indeed be classed as unethical. Doubly so for inventing a position for them.
Officially I passed all those. Code of conduct, ethics, anti-corruption but all by answering against my base nature of not donating personal funds to a vendor's child's charitable event, accepting sports event tickets, conveniently revealing competitor RFP details, sham interviews, etc. The most difficult to pass was the in person respect your peers because I had to behave prim and proper and not say things like, "If we don't achieve this, you better start brushing up your resignation letter because you're handing it in at the end of the year right after I hand in mine."
So if you are asking for a pay rise is it better to nominate a number or wait for 'the man' to come up with something?
At your current job? I've never asked for one. People either keep promoting me, gifting me massive bonuses or giving me merit increases.
I’ve always nominated percentage. I’ll lay out the evidence of what I’ve brought to the org and then say that an x% raise is saving them money by keeping me another year.