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What's "cocktail attire" at a fundraising event for the local opera for men?

Looking at past photographs it is difficult to gauge since the past 2 years it was cancelled and 3 years ago they did a casual concert at a museum. 4+ years ago I see black tie in the actual opera house.
 
What's "cocktail attire" at a fundraising event for the local opera for men?

Looking at past photographs it is difficult to gauge since the past 2 years it was cancelled and 3 years ago they did a casual concert at a museum. 4+ years ago I see black tie in the actual opera house.

I think you would be our resident expert in this matter.
 
I agree with belinmad belinmad that black tie is probably your best bet, and I personally would make a case for a more "casual" version, with a non-black jacket or similar.
 
What's "cocktail attire" at a fundraising event for the local opera for men?

Looking at past photographs it is difficult to gauge since the past 2 years it was cancelled and 3 years ago they did a casual concert at a museum. 4+ years ago I see black tie in the actual opera house.
i'd say suit and tie for you. you don't strike me as a suit with no tie type of guy. it doesn't matter what the current fashion is if you go feeling confident and that confidence expresses itself into your having a good time.
 
If black tie was the intent it would say “black tie”.
Cocktail attire for me would be a dark suit but with some accessories that were obviously non business / court appearance - maybe a shirt or tie with a bit of flash. No pinstripes, no repp stripes.
 
Historically /technically cocktail hour starts after 5pm and finishes by 7.30pm - 8.00pm. It is supposed to be a transition social,gathering. That is you are either going to cocktail do after work on the way home, or from home to the opera or dinner or such. So if you come from work you wear your work outfit, which was always a suit, or if going to opera you would wear your opera outfit which should be a Dinner Suit. Both outfits are acceptable and in fact correct. It is a transition Occassion.

However times have changed, dudes are likely to be wearing ill fitting tight jeans or worse to work on Friday , usual cocktail day, with a hoodie top and band t shirt. Clearly not cocktail wear even if transitioning.

Depends on the season, but I’d say toward summer a smart linen suit, or if your tendencies are a bit retro rock n Roll, then a white or ecru dinner jacket with the black trousers would be hip, or winter say a spiffy velvet jacket, deep burgundy or navy or even deep green, with tailored trousers. Naturally anything associated with opera, even tangentially, says dinner suit will always fit in.

But hey, knock yourself out. If it’s anything like here or USA then most people will look like they were working in the garden an hour ago and said “Fuck it, let’s go to the cocktail party fwiffo mentioned. There’s no time to change clothes or have a shower. Jump in the car”
 
Historically /technically cocktail hour starts after 5pm and finishes by 7.30pm - 8.00pm. It is supposed to be a transition social,gathering. That is you are either going to cocktail do after work on the way home, or from home to the opera or dinner or such. So if you come from work you wear your work outfit, which was always a suit, or if going to opera you would wear your opera outfit which should be a Dinner Suit. Both outfits are acceptable and in fact correct. It is a transition Occassion.

However times have changed, dudes are likely to be wearing ill fitting tight jeans or worse to work on Friday , usual cocktail day, with a hoodie top and band t shirt. Clearly not cocktail wear even if transitioning.

Depends on the season, but I’d say toward summer a smart linen suit, or if your tendencies are a bit retro rock n Roll, then a white or ecru dinner jacket with the black trousers would be hip, or winter say a spiffy velvet jacket, deep burgundy or navy or even deep green, with tailored trousers. Naturally anything associated with opera, even tangentially, says dinner suit will always fit in.

But hey, knock yourself out. If it’s anything like here or USA then most people will look like they were working in the garden an hour ago and said “Fuck it, let’s go to the cocktail party fwiffo mentioned. There’s no time to change clothes or have a shower. Jump in the car”
Sad but true Francis.

I went to see The Nutcracker around 20 years ago. Contemplated wearing black tie. Glad I didn’t. When I got there only the waiters / ushers were wearing (ill fitting, rental) tuxes. My attempts at elevating the elegance by wearing my tux would have fallen flat if some old granny asked me to show her to her seat or get her drinks order!
 
retro rock n Roll, then a white or ecru dinner jacket with the black trousers would be hip, or winter say a spiffy velvet jacket, deep burgundy or navy or even deep green, with tailored trousers.
Pretty much my thoughts. If you want to go more"modern", I would consider a black roll neck instead of shirt and bow tie - in fact, I recently saw a gentleman wearing a navy velvet jacket with black roll neck and trousers at a performance of L'Orfeo in the Vienna State Opera.
 
To report back, it was a mix of everything.

I didn't know the cocktail reception was segregated between people who paid only to attend the reception and competition and people who paid 4 figures to have a dinner afterwards.

On the proletariat level there were one or two people wearing jeans and puffy winter coats. Maybe 10% wore someone's idea of black tie often with stud-less dress shirts, pre-tied bow ties, lack of waist covering or waistcoat, lack of patent leather shoes, etc. 30% in suit and tie. A few eccentric people had velvet jackets but open collar. Lots of business casual + blazer and odd trousers. For an evening event on a foggy & cloudy day a surprising number of people decided brown shoes or suits were appropriate.

It was more uniform upstairs for the people who bought dinner tickets where some gents sported more traditional black tie and the minimum there was suit and tie.
 
To report back, it was a mix of everything.

I didn't know the cocktail reception was segregated between people who paid only to attend the reception and competition and people who paid 4 figures to have a dinner afterwards.

On the proletariat level there were one or two people wearing jeans and puffy winter coats. Maybe 10% wore someone's idea of black tie often with stud-less dress shirts, pre-tied bow ties, lack of waist covering or waistcoat, lack of patent leather shoes, etc. 30% in suit and tie. A few eccentric people had velvet jackets but open collar. Lots of business casual + blazer and odd trousers. For an evening event on a foggy & cloudy day a surprising number of people decided brown shoes or suits were appropriate.

It was more uniform upstairs for the people who bought dinner tickets where some gents sported more traditional black tie and the minimum there was suit and tie.
What did you end up wearing?
 
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To report back, it was a mix of everything.

I didn't know the cocktail reception was segregated between people who paid only to attend the reception and competition and people who paid 4 figures to have a dinner afterwards.

On the proletariat level there were one or two people wearing jeans and puffy winter coats. Maybe 10% wore someone's idea of black tie often with stud-less dress shirts, pre-tied bow ties, lack of waist covering or waistcoat, lack of patent leather shoes, etc. 30% in suit and tie. A few eccentric people had velvet jackets but open collar. Lots of business casual + blazer and odd trousers. For an evening event on a foggy & cloudy day a surprising number of people decided brown shoes or suits were appropriate.

It was more uniform upstairs for the people who bought dinner tickets where some gents sported more traditional black tie and the minimum there was suit and tie.

I just got an invite to a banquet, specifying ‘cocktail attire’, though thankfully they spell out their definition as: suit and tie, dress uniform or cocktail dress. I’ll be gtg in a dark blue suit.
 
I just got an invite to a banquet, specifying ‘cocktail attire’, though thankfully they spell out their definition as: suit and tie, dress uniform or cocktail dress. I’ll be gtg in a dark blue suit.

The head of sales invited me to an insurance awards event next week that had this for dress code: ATTIRE: Formal (tuxedo/business suit/long gown/cocktail dress)

Looking at that and the 2019 photographs the dress code is a bit wild. 40 percent dark suits. Half black tie. A small tiny minority who decided bright coloured ties and/or shirts was kosher.
 
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Another one. Dress code: Semi-formal (cocktail attire)

Does semi-formal really mean cocktail? I'm confused...
 
Vineyard wedding invite says dress: ‘semi-formal’, so I’m thinking blue suit, white shirt and no tie will be fine right?
 
Vineyard wedding invite says dress: ‘semi-formal’, so I’m thinking blue suit, white shirt and no tie will be fine right?
There is a whole website for this wedding including a FAQ page with:

The dress code for our wedding is semi-formal/cocktail attire. Ladies are encouraged to wear cocktail dresses, jumpsuits or evening gowns are also welcome. Gentlemen are encouraged to wear a suit and tie or a sports coat.

Guess I will start out with a tie.

Also, it’s an open bar at a vineyard. NFW I’m driving that night!
 
There is a whole website for this wedding including a FAQ page with:



Guess I will start out with a tie.

Also, it’s an open bar at a vineyard. NFW I’m driving that night!

That’s just a whole bunch of nonsense.
1. Semi-formal
2. Cocktail attire
3. Suit and tie
4. Sports coat

Which one is it?
 
There is a whole website for this wedding including a FAQ page with:



Guess I will start out with a tie.

Also, it’s an open bar at a vineyard. NFW I’m driving that night!
they just copied that wording from the internet.
 
they just copied that wording from the internet.
I think it’s some sort of standard wedding planner’s hosting domain where the couples modify and add their personal details and pics - which only makes it worse.

Anyway, I’ll start with a tie and remove it if needed.

It’s about a five hour drive to the hotel and then thirty minutes into the countryside to the venue. Sounds like everyone is staying at the same place though, so I’ll drive to the hotel and see if we can Uber to the event.
 
I have a few cheap knit ties but I’m thinking about getting a better quality knit or grenadine tie to wear with this (blue-grey) suit - including an upcoming wedding.

Can’t decide between a similar burgundy, brown or deep green.

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That burgundy looks good with that color suit.
Step up to a grenadine where you maintain the texture but add a touch of class.
Be a bit more creative with your handkerchief. Matching solid on solid (if that’s what you’ve done) is a bit of a noob moove!
 
That burgundy looks good with that color suit.
Step up to a grenadine where you maintain the texture but add a touch of class.
Be a bit more creative with your handkerchief. Matching solid on solid (if that’s what you’ve done) is a bit of a noob moove!


Stop matching tie and pocket square pls

It’s a silk green on burgundy paisley ps that belonged to my grandfather, but with a minimalist TV fold it’s true that you miss some of the detail.
 
It’s a silk green on burgundy paisley ps that belonged to my grandfather, but with a minimalist TV fold it’s true that you miss some of the detail.
I’d stay with chunky silk knit ties. It’s a casual world these days. And I’d look for a knit tie of the same colour but slightly darker than the suit. It looks kinda steel blue /gray? Go pale blue shirt, blue knit tie. Or stay with the windowpane blue lines shirt. Blue and white patterned pocket parrot.
 
Cricket/tennis sweaters work off the pitch/court: horribly preppy or acceptable if you come from the Commonwealth?

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