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Personally, without being a child psychiatrist but going on my experience as a parent, four years of age is really too young for a child to know what they are, so to speak.
A child at that age is still being formed and their identity is still developing. When my daughter was four years old, she refused to wear dresses and only wanted to wear shorts and pants and she also wanted short hair. This was, I suspect, the result of wanting to be like her older brother, who is two years older than her. She also wrote stories about battles in space, aliens, spacecraft being blown up and so on, which I again suspect was due to having an older brother. She played soccer and she ran around hiding behind trees, pretending to shoot at people. She told us that she didn't want to be a girl because have to give birth and she said that she didn't want to give birth because she'd heard that it was painful and that she might die!
Only a year or so later, though, she decided that she wanted to do ballet instead of soccer and she stopped wearing long pants and started wearing skirts, dresses and tights. As a result of doing ballet, she grew her hair long. She started doing lots of cute drawings of animals and developed a passion for the "Frozen" movie.
Even though children of that age recognise that girls and boys have physical differences, as far as I can see, they really don't take much notice of those differences at that age. They all play together, they all push trucks around or build castles out of blocks, they all play with dolls or action figures, they all run around and climb trees. Admittedly, boys' play does tend to be more physical whereas girls' play is sometimes more restrained or intellectual but the children themselves see little difference - there's really no thought given to different roles for males and females so, to young children, it doesn't matter whether you're a boy or a girl.
